onsdag, september 19, 2007

Bare indadvendt

Hverken trist, arrogant eller asocial…

I 2003 skrev Jonathan Rauch en artikel i The Atlantic Mothly med titlen “Caring for Your Introvert”, som alle — men måske især udadvendte — kan have glæde af at læse. Her et par småbidder:
»Extroverts are easy for introverts to understand, because extroverts spend so much of their time working out who they are in voluble, and frequently inescapable, interaction with other people. They are as inscrutable as puppy dogs. But the street does not run both ways. Extroverts have little or no grasp of introversion. They assume that company, especially their own, is always welcome. They cannot imagine why someone would need to be alone; indeed, they often take umbrage at the suggestion.«

»Extroverts are seen as bighearted, vibrant, warm, empathic. “People person” is a compliment. Introverts are described with words like “guarded,” “loner,” “reserved,” “taciturn,” “self-contained,” “private” — narrow, ungenerous words, words that suggest emotional parsimony and smallness of personality.«

»We can only dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts' Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say “I'm an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush.”«
I 2006 blev Rauch interviewet om artiklen, og der er osse mindst to opfølgninger med læserbreve og kommentarer — alle værd at læse:
»I marvel at Michael who can always somehow turn the conversation right over effortlessly and keep it going even when what he says is not necessarily profound or interesting. What he comes up with is perfectly tuned to the sense and flow of the conversation. But it's not words that are particularly intended to convey ideas or mean things. It's words that socialize — that simply continue the conversation. It's chit-chat. I have no gift for that. I have to think about what to say next, and sometimes I can't think fast enough and end up saying something stupid. Or sometimes I just come up dry and the conversation kind of ends for a while until I can think of another topic.«

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